Have you ever struggled to find the right words to describe your alcohol-free lifestyle?
For me, the word “sober” never felt like the right fit. It didn’t reflect my experience, my journey, or the life I was trying to build. That’s why I proudly call myself a non-drinker—and today, I want to share why that simple shift in language changed everything.
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The Problem With the Word “Sober”
When we hear the word sober, we often think of addiction recovery, rock-bottom stories, 12-step programs, and lifelong battles with cravings.
And while that journey is 100% valid and powerful for many people, it’s not my story.
I didn’t quit drinking because I hit a devastating low.
I quit because I wanted more—more energy, more self-respect, more clarity, and more purpose. Alcohol was getting in the way of all that.
But every time I heard the word sober, it made me feel like I had to explain myself. Like I needed to justify my decision or fit into a box that didn’t match who I was. It didn’t feel like me—it felt limiting.
Why I Claim the Term “Non-Drinker”
Calling myself a non-drinker is a personal declaration. It’s not about a label. It’s about identity.
I don’t drink. Not because I’m fighting the urge. Not because I’m counting days.
I don’t drink because I don’t want to—and I don’t have to explain it beyond that.
Just like a vegetarian doesn’t eat meat, I simply don’t consume alcohol. It’s not a battle. It’s a choice. And every time I say “I’m a non-drinker,” I reinforce that choice with confidence.
When offered a drink at a restaurant I simply say, “No thanks.” Or “I don’t drink.”
Non-Drinker vs. Sober: What’s the Difference?
Let’s break it down:
- Sober: Often associated with addiction recovery, a past struggle, or being in lifelong recovery. It can feel heavy, clinical, or tied to someone else’s definition.
- Non-Drinker: Simple, neutral, present-moment focused. It’s just a fact about how I live—no explanation, no judgment, no baggage.
Neither word is wrong. It just comes down to what feels true and simply states who you are. For me, that’s “non-drinker.”
You’re Never Too Old to Redefine Yourself
One of the most powerful realizations I’ve had on this journey is this:
You don’t have to explain your past to claim a better future.
I’m over 60, and instead of settling into old patterns, I’ve chosen to renovate my life. I’m rebuilding my health, my mindset, my habits—and yes, even my identity.
Quitting alcohol was one of the boldest, most freeing decisions I’ve ever made. And giving myself the freedom to call it what I want? That was the second.
The Identity Shift That Changed My Life
When you call yourself a non-drinker, you’re not focused on what you’re avoiding. You’re focused on who you’re becoming.
You’re not someone in recovery—you’re someone in transformation.
I’m not defined by what I’ve given up.
I’m defined by what I’ve stepped into: clarity, strength, and peace.
So no—I’m not sober.
I’m a non-drinker, and that feels exactly right.
Let’s Start a New Conversation
If you’re on your own alcohol-free journey and the traditional language doesn’t sit well with you, that’s okay.
You don’t have to use words that make you feel boxed in.
You don’t have to explain your past if you’re focused on creating a better future.
You get to define your path. You get to write your story.
Join Me Inside “The Project”
At The Lisa Renee Project, I’m documenting my journey to full-life renovation after 60—from quitting alcohol and building a healthy body to launching a meaningful business and finally becoming who I was always meant to be.
✨ Want inspiration for your own transformation?
✨ Curious about becoming alcohol-free later in life?
✨ Tired of feeling like it’s too late to change?
You’re in the right place.
💬 What Do YOU Call Yourself?
Do you relate more to non-drinker or sober? Or maybe neither?
Leave a comment below—I’d love to hear your thoughts and your journey.
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